Why losing might be the best thing that can happen to you

(and how you can use that to create tougher competitors)

Gone are the days when we let bad things happen to our kids.

Bad grade? Must be the teacher’s fault.

Your kid’s not the starter? The coach must have something against him.

Your team lost? That’s ok – everyone gets a trophy.

Here’s the thing:


It took me a while to realize this when I was a younger coach, but a lot of times the losses do more to develop our kids than the wins do.

Don’t get me wrong: I hate losing and I’m certainly not looking to make excuses or rationalize poor performance.

But what if there was a way to develop kids who had the resilience they needed to be successful in life, and, at the same time, the tools they needed to win more matches or games?

The words we choose to use and the way we choose to frame losses, failures or setbacks for our athletes is so important for creating an environment of growth through failure.

I recently has wrote an article for my friend Chris Fore’s site about how we, as coaches, can use these types of setbacks to help build stronger competitors.

Check out this post and the Top 3 Strategies for making it happen in your program.

Would love to hear your thoughts!

About the Author

Pete Jacobson has been a varsity HS coach in New York for over 20 years. He works with coaches of all levels through WinSmarter to help them build Championship Cultures in all parts of their programs, have a greater positive impact and go home happy. Check out 10 Insanely Powerful Tactics for an Amazing Team Culture for some of the most unique, impactful tactics you can use to build a Championship Culture quickly.

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